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Oct102016

He Is Watching

 

Oh Sweet Liam, do you know that I heard about children watching the Presidential candidates...but I never thought that it would be you or your brother.  I didn't think you would even know or understand about it, as you are only 6 years old.  It happened though, here in our little Maine house,  where peace and kindness prevail. You had just finished watching a Sunday morning cartoon on the little TV in the kitchen. You could sit at the dining room table, color and then glance up to watch your show. Your show ended, I was busy, and I didn't get to the TV quick enough to shut it off. One of the Sunday morning news shows came on.  When I turned the corner, there you were standing by the counter, listening to Mr. Trump. I took this quick I-phone snap and then promptly turned the TV off.  Honestly, I was surprised..first of all by the fact that you knew who he was and secondly that you and your friends talked about him and the others candidate at school. You also asked me if I liked Mr. Obama and I told you that I did. So we sat that morning, just for bit, and we had a little chat..me trying to keep it very low key and you just being curious about the people that you and your friends were exchanging conversation over.  It is a very big election year and already you are taking an interest.

I've been thinking a lot about this Liam and how I would have liked to have told you about each person that we were talking about..but I know the facts and the problems they are trying to solve are not something that you can really understand at your young age.  What I am happy about is that you find it important enough to ask questions and I know your Mommy and Daddy and Papa and I would always answer any questions you have, about most anything in your little life, that you think needs answers or that you want more information about...Your a very smart boy and when Jaxon gets a bit bigger, he's going to be really, really smart also. I'm so happy he's going to have you to talk to about all the things that will make him curious, no matter what they might be..

So, if I could sit you both down and tell you what I think, I wouldn't talk about the election or the people in it.  Someday that will be your job to figure out as you grow and want to make the world, your world.  You will know when you get big enough what is important for both of you.  I already know though, that you and Jaxson will most especially want to save the earth and Mother Nature...you do love to be out in the woods and you love all the creatures that roam there.  The flowers are especially special for both of you...and walking and running, free of traffic is so much fun.  So, I think we are all on the same page there. More importantly, I hope as you travel through your world each day, you take with you all the lessons that all of us who love you, have taught you.

You know about how "nice matters"...in the Maine house, not very far from that little TV, is a sign that says that.  A long time ago, when you were really little, we talked about that, you and I.  How it's so important to not hurt anyone's feelings and not to make fun of people that are different than we are.  Sometimes when you and Jaxson get upset, Papa and I tell you to try to think of how the other person would feel if you weren't nice to them.  You guys are so good to each other and that is really important as you grow and become best friends.  One big thing that is really important is to never, ever be a bully.  I asked you if you knew what that meant and you said you did.  Good for you..Don't be a bully but don't let a bully, bully you either. Also try not to say mean things because words really do matter.  Remember how it makes you feel when someone says they love you and that you are good and kind.  Share those kinds of words and leave the mean words in your pocket...I know when you and Jaxson tell me that you love me...it makes my heart sing.  Isn't it the nicest gift to know that you can make someone's heart sing..and if someone needs help, you be there to help them, not because you need to, but because you want to. By helping someone else, your really helping yourself.  I love it when you, and Jaxson now, help me carry bags in from the car...because I hurt my hand when I fell off my bike..and it makes me smile when you both help Papa in the yard and down in the workshop...I know he sneaks you a few dollars but that's o.k.  You deserve it because you boys are such a big help. Being kind and helpful, speaking words of love and singing happy songs is what I want for you and my buddy Jaxson.  Mostly though I want you to remember what I think is really important.

We don't know who will win this election yet..but soon we will.  What I can tell you though, is that I will pick the person that I think is the best example of what I would want for you and Jaxson.  I want you both to know that words matter, kindness is a way of life, loving everyone is important and high moral standards are a good thing.  You should also know that sometimes that is a hard thing to do but always, no matter what, you stand on your  principal and pride.  Don't ever win by being mean and don't follow a bad lead.  When I think of this election, I think of who I would want to be a role model for you.  I want someone that believes like Papa and I do..I want a person that really is good to people and tries very hard to help them. Mostly I want you to always stand for your own principle, because if you excuse bad behavior it really means that your the same as the person who is doing the bad behavior. Bad behavior and making fun of people can never be justified. Bad behavior is bad behavior and it tells you what kind of a person you are really dealing with.  I know this is a lot for a little 6 year old to think about right now, so I'm going to put this letter away for you and Jaxson.  Someday, no matter what happens, I want you both to know how proud we are of you and Jaxson and all the goodness you bring into our lives and the lives of all the people you connect with everyday..and someday you will know that even if the person we want to win doesn't, it's o.k. because we win anyways...we win because we will vote with our conscience and a moral compass that will never let us stray..you can't say the words if you don't demonstrate the action.  I know as you were watching TV that day...you are also watching me and Papa and your Mom and Your Dad everyday...and we would never let you down. Always go for the person who has  kindness in their heart and goodness in their soul...you will know who they are by the way they act and treat other people and by the words they choose.

I love you Liam and Jaxson....I know you will always take the kindness train.  I hope the tracks have already been laid in your heart...honestly, you guys are the best and each day you go out in the world delivering sunshine to everyone who crosses your path...you are the future...I'm feeling very good about that.

"No man is an Island...to fight the good fight, we need help."  Paulo Coelho

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Reader Comments (19)

Oh, Dearest Cheryl . . .
How I wish you could submit this as an editorial to the NY Times . . . or the Washington Post . . . or . . . or . . .
I'm all swelled up with tears. You are the most unbelievably kind and wise woman I've ever known. Thank you for sharing.
Those who know you are so blessed. May the BEST WOMAN win! xox

October 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterAntoinette

How to perfectly same something without saying it! And I totally agree with everything you said! A beautiful post.

October 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterLiz Thomas

Thanks so much Antoinette...I don't even know how to submit...LOL...but, I sure hope your right...at the end of the day...Thanks always for your support and really "kind" words...they make my heart sing...

October 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterCheryl c.

Thank you Liz and so glad you got it...but you know, little kids only needs the answers to what they are asking...so I go carefully. This was so important to me though, that someday they will know that I stood on principal and morals. So many in this election are not and it really is amazing...Thanks for being like-minded.

October 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterCheryl c.

I am back once more to tell you I think this is the most profound piece you've ever written. You are a true born author who is able to describe a situation with incredible sensitivity, feeling, honesty and fairness . . . Like Liz said, you said something without saying it . . . that's the KEY to a successful writer. It seems to come so naturally to you . . . what a beautiful spirit you have ... just to recognize that little kids only need answers to what they are asking . . . I'll always remember that, Cheryl . . . As you know, I don't own a TV and have never really watched my entire life (like when I was a kid and my family would tune in). I'm soooo impressed with the way you handled the situation. I cannot take the stimulus and drama of all that's been infiltrating our world. I just don't get it and feel like an alien most of the time. Thanks for being YOU . . . xoxox a xoxox

October 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterAntoinette

Your observation and capture of his viewing is amazing! The story is so beautifully written as always. I recall the first election in my youth, I was only 5 and we didn't own a tv, but the radio and newspapers carried all the news. My family discussed the candidates at home...family talks are good times for teaching children many things and in many situations.

October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterBeverly

Thank you Beverly...it is hard sometimes with small children but I don't think we should ever try to dodge a question if they ask it. He seemed satisfied with our short conversation...I actually think I did more thinking about it than he did...I appreciate you stopping over and I always value your comments...you are a wise woman...xo

October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterCheryl c.

Dear Cheryl,
After meeting you for the first time yesterday, I rushed home and read your recent blog post. I wasn't expecting tears, but they came about 2 sentences into your piece. Your pitch perfect essay brought me back to some of the most memorable conversations I had as a child with my grandmother and mother and now with my own children and grandchildren. Thank you for sharing your words and images with us at this epic "teachable moment".

October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterCarol MacGregor

Oh thank you so much Carol for your kind words and touching comment. Photography and writing go hand in hand for me...and your right, we have to grasp those most important "teachable moments"..I'm surprised by how many conversations I'm hearing that some of us have had as children with our own parents of grandparents...that is so wonderful. I loved spending time with you and Susan yesterday...it felt so natural. You are so creative and interesting...can't wait for our little escape...LOL

October 12, 2016 | Registered CommenterCheryl Crotty

Cheryl, this is truly such a beautiful post.

October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterLisa Gordon

You said all the right things in a most beautiful way, Cheryl. All my thoughts have been said already through all the people commenting here. It was so wonderful to finally meet you yesterday...you are as delightful in person as your are on social media...but then again, I knew you would be!

October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterSusan

Lisa, thank you so much for visiting and for your lovely comment...I love it when you stop by and I'm delighted to have you as a contact. Enjoy your day.

October 12, 2016 | Registered CommenterCheryl Crotty

Oh Susan, what a beautiful person you are...thank you for stopping by. I always love to see you and hear your take on things...Yesterday was a really lovely day...when you admire someone for a long time and then finally get to meet them, it is a gift. Your kind words make me feel so good and I feel the same about you...like we've know each other in another life...enjoy your day...

October 12, 2016 | Registered CommenterCheryl Crotty

The kids are picking up this all over America I am sorry to say. Last night at my daughters my almost 11 year old Granddaughter was talking about a kid in her class that was talking about the nonsense we are going through. Our times are scary and just hope they don't get scarier. Good capture Cheryl.

October 13, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterBarbara Hurst

I couldn't agree more Barbara...I've never seen anything quite like it with these kids...I feel so bad for the younger generation...especially the poor parents trying to bring them up...thanks for your visit and lovely note...enjoy your weekend ahead.

October 13, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterCheryl c.

Oh Cheryl, you have blown me away before but all I can say is: Brava! I am late to reading this since I have not been online but I am so, so glad I finally saw it today. I will be sharing this with everybody. I can't even imagine what kind of world we would have if everyone brought these values to their children and grandchildren -- and even more so, lived these values! Liam and Jaxon are already wonderful little people and they will become the most loving, beautiful adult men thanks to you and all the rest of your amazing family! xoxoxo Sherry

October 16, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterSherry G.

Beautifully said. I just spent the weekend with tow of my grandchildren 6 and 4 and wonder too what they have seen and heard. I pray they always "take the kindness train too"

October 16, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterKate T

Sherry, you are such an important person to me...thank you for your visit, your heartfelt comment and for sharing my words. You are so uplifting and we both know that this is such an important issue...I hope, in the future, that our country turns itself around and finally gets the message that we are all equal...born under the same sky and everyone deserves to be treated with dignity. For me and my little ones...we will continue to work on this everyday...thanks sweet lady for being the kind of person that this world needs more of...xo

October 18, 2016 | Registered CommenterCheryl Crotty

Thank you so much Kate for your visit and for stopping by....I'm pretty sure you and your kids will always be on the "kindness train."

October 18, 2016 | Registered CommenterCheryl Crotty

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